Often, I am asked about books and any that I would recommend. this is kind of a big question, there are so many and usually, panicking, I will recommend whatever it is that I am reading at that point in time. I forget a lot of the other amazing books that that out there and that I have enjoyed. However there is one book that I really think we should all read, "The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k" by Sarah Knight.
I know the title may put some people off, and there are assumptions made with the cursing and the implication that it means you don't care. But it is not that at all. It is about only giving time to those things that actually benefit and are good for you. From the things we tolerate day to day, to dealing with people and relationships that are not good for us, we do not enjoy and really should not be giving the time of day. Yes, it's a self help book - but a really good one.
The cover says it all, "How to stop spending time you don't have doing things you don't want to do with people you don't like". It sounds pretty ideal to me. Of course there are things that we cannot control, but we can control our reactions.
Sarah Knight talks about a "F**k Budget", and this was, hands down, the biggest take away from this book for me. For the purposes of writing this (and that my parents may read it) I'm replacing all "Fs" with, I don't know, "oranges". We only have a certain number of "Oranges" to give a day. We can decide each day whether something is worth eating into our orange budget or not. The guy that took ages ordering at Starbucks, doesn't deserve any of my oranges (or the flat white he took his time deciding on to be honest). The cat peeing in my wardrobe, that's maybe half an orange.
The things that we should spend our time and energy and "fruit" on are those that really matter to us. If a person is worth your time, choose to spend your time with them. If you have to spend time with people you don't like, it's obviously harder. But you dictate how you react to them and the choice is yours whether or not they get any part of your budget/fruit bowl. (As an aside, not everyone in your life deserves to be there and has to stay).
Share your self with those worthy, on the things worthy and decide what outwith this gets any part of your time and energy.
Oh, and get the book (not an Ad or any of that)